The Start Of All Evil
If you are a human with a brain and haven’t been living under a rock, you know that porn is bad for you. Now you may not know why but deep down you feel like something doesn’t add up. And your feeling is absolutely right. Porn is really destroying lives out there. In the following lines, I will explain what porn is, why it’s bad, and how to beat the addiction, let’s dive in.
What is porn?
Porn is a sex scene behind 2 adults, simply put. But it definitely isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. You may think that the guys who do porn are the luckiest in the world because they can f*ck all these hot chicks. The truth is over 80% of porn actors have mental health issues or clinical depression. Lana Rhoades is an excellent example here. If you’re or were into porn, you know her. By now she has quit the porn industry and has attended on multiple podcasts explaining what porn did to her and why it was the worst decision in her life.
Why is porn bad?
Watching porn creates a false image of what real sex is. The scenes have been carefully optimized for the best user experience. Hence the crazy positions that look out of this world. Real sex and porn are like day and night. Now I’m going to quick-fire some bad effects that porn has on you:
Distorted view of consent: Some studies suggest that certain types of pornography may depict non-consensual or coercive sexual acts, which can impact an individual's understanding of healthy consent and boundaries.
Relationship issues: Excessive consumption of pornography has been linked to relationship problems, such as decreased sexual satisfaction, decreased intimacy, and a higher likelihood of infidelity.
Addiction and compulsivity: For some individuals, pornography can trigger addictive behaviors and compulsive use, leading to negative consequences in their personal and professional lives.
Emotional disconnect: Frequent consumption of pornography might desensitize individuals to intimate emotional connections, leading to difficulties in forming or maintaining healthy relationships.
Body dissatisfaction: Viewing idealized and unrealistic body types in pornography may contribute to body dissatisfaction and negative self-image, particularly among individuals who compare themselves to the performers.
Performance anxiety: Frequent exposure to pornographic content can create performance anxiety and pressure to meet unrealistic standards, potentially affecting sexual functioning and confidence.
Objectification: Some types of pornography portray individuals as objects for sexual gratification, reinforcing objectification and potentially leading to a devaluation of individuals' worth outside of a sexual context.
Escalation and desensitization: Individuals who regularly consume pornography may find themselves seeking more extreme or explicit content over time to achieve the same level of arousal, potentially leading to desensitization to "vanilla" sexual experiences.
How I quit porn and how you can too.
1. Film yourself jerking off | Do it. Well, I'm not sure if you can because after this you don't want to jerk off anyways but...
Film yourself and watch back every single second of that cringe video. Imagine if this video got leaked. What would your friends think? What would the women think? Guess you're not that masculine now are you?
You look like a geek jerking off and you deserve to see it.
2. Asking the right questions | Quitting porn is not always the best way to look at it. Are you trying to quit porn or trying to have a better life. Kind of both, I know. But ask yourself these 2 questions:
What would my life look like in 5 years if I quit porn today?
What would my hell look like if I kept on watching porn for 5 years?
Your dream life is now behind these two questions. Choose wisely.
3. Delete your social media | Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, TikTok etc. Instagram is the 2nd Pornhub. This platform is dominated by women who are 99% naked.
And they are triggers. You see the girl on IG and the next thing you do is boot up the hub. Same with Snapchat.
I used to get plenty of snaps from girls and obviously, I had a few summer pictures saved. That was enough to trigger the urge and there I was, beating my meat like a little monkey. Delete em. This will be the best decision of your life.
4. Get productively busy | When I first got into self-improvement, I was busy. I had so much to do at all times, I didn't even once think about porn.
And I wasn't even thinking about quitting at that time.
But combine the wanting to quit with being busy. BOOM. But the key is 'productively busy' This doesn't mean doing your website 10 hours every single day. Do things that actually improve the quality of your life.
5. THE ULTIMATUM | This was the one that changed the game for me and helped me quit for good.
Listen up, it's very simple. Think of your truest goal/purpose. And give yourself an ultimatum. "If you beat your meat in this month, you'll never achieve your purpose".
Mine was exactly that: I told myself that if I beat my meat within the next 30 days, I will not succeed in life. I was bound to fail in life if I jerked off within these 30 days. Ever since that ultimatum, I haven't jerked off once. I don't even feel the need to. I'm free.
If you implement these in your life and use some willpower, you will not jerk off in the next 30 days. Reminding you that if you do, you will never be successful.
